BELLY FATS AND LOVE HANDLES

BELLY FATS AND LOVE HANDLES

September 29, 2015

I have a friend who was self-conscious because her belly fat from her second pregnancy still has not been eliminated even though it has been 3 months since she gave birth.  She is being teased that maybe her husband will leave her for a sexier and younger woman.

I have nothing against sexy women, but only on the word itself.  I understand the word to be somebody who is good with the ACT itself.  In my case who is (unashamedly) single and a virgin, or one who has zero sex life, how can I be sexy? 

But most people associate the word with razor thin women who (as a former boy-friend said) look fierce as models because they literally have nothing to eat and are perpetually hungry. 

I take exception to that.  I admit I have belly fats and love handles, my butt rivals that of J.Lo or Beyonce while my boobs are only frustratingly A-cup, and I am not sexy, but please do not take it to mean that I am less of a woman or somebody who is less desirable because of a plus-sized lower body.  Frankly, I really don’t care if people frown on my more than zero size, because I am proud to be earning a living and showing off to the world that yes, a significant part of my salary goes to the food on the table (no offense meant, but as a joke, does one not wonder why frontline sales people who are earning less than or equal to the minimum wage have smaller waistlines and larger lower legs?).

I give more premium to being healthy (normal blood pressure, no allergies, not easily getting sick, clear skin, able to think clearly and act with responsibility to any given situation), than being presentable in the latest fads.  I am comfortable with my own skin, not only because I know what I am doing but because I am grateful to GOD who perfectly and wonderfully made me.  I may not be perfect in the eyes of people, but when GOD created my first parents who were the prototype of who I am, HE said, IT IS GOOD.  That GOOD was definite and not relative.  It is not subject to changing trends and philosophies, and for that, I am eternally content and grateful.

I would like to tell my friend not to fear if her husband leaves her for a sexier and younger woman because she can find another more handsome and with a job that earns a higher and more secure pay.  However, I would like her to remember instead that she has two adorable kids, priceless gifts and treasures from GOD who need to be inspired and see an example of their mother who is comfortable in her own skin, in order for them to be confident in themselves.

More than being sexy, I believe that that is where the essence of a woman is fully expressed.  In being a good mother, sister, teacher or friend, one who leads the way in showing to others all the good virtues of a godly, responsible, smart and intelligent human person.